When both partners of a couple in love have wicked strong personalities and runaway stubborn streaks, they are called negative Instigator Couples in the Talk2Me© positive and effective communication system.
Stubborn ME + Stubborn YOU = We Both LOSE!
Extreme competitiveness is extremely toxic.
United you will stand, divided you will fall. Do you want to be right or do you want to be loved and happy?
ARE YOU STUBBORN?
Hard-Headed Problem: If prideful anger replaces the need to respectfully compromise, then your love is snuffed out.
HOW TO KEEP THE LOVE YOU’VE BEEN BLESSED TO FIND
Action attitudes to demonstrate self-control and respect for your partner when the heat is on:
❏ Reveal, don’t conceal insecurities.
❏ Share vulnerabilities openly ("I feel sad/scared or ___.") with a partner.
❏ Let go off arguing or needing to get your way and be right because being right is all wrong.
❏ Co-create and write out a mutually agreed upon mission to respect differences, not ever-ever-ever fight about them.
❏ Show respect to each other when differences arise by not cussing, shouting, withdrawing, giving a cold shoulder, threatening to leave, stomping off, drinking or drugging, driving off mad, criticizing-pouting-blaming-shaming, etc.