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10 LOVE RULES

November 3, 2017

 

 

 

 

10 LOVE RULES

 

Few souls follow the Rules of Love when moody fears rule the home roost. Are you a safe and sane person to talk to during fear-driven tumultuous times? Love rules: Reject fear to accept love.
 

LOVE RULES—FEAR DROOLS

The 10 Rules of Successful Couple Communication that make connective bonds stronger:

 

1 - BREATHE. No one has to live up to your expectations but you. Correct?

 

2 - BE VULNERABLE. Choose to reveal your vulnerability and needs instead of defending the Ego castle with the hot oil of harsh words.

 

3 - ONLY TALK ABOUT ONE TOPIC AT A TIME. Ping, ping, pinging multiple topics overwhelms a couple.

 

4 - DO WHAT WORKS FOR YOUR UNIQUE TEAM OF TWO. Both of you are right. Develop your own ways and rules of viewing money, sex, religion, and co-parenting.

 

5 - NO FIXED FIGHTS. Seek unbiased expert help when you’re stuck in a pattern of loud fussing and finger-pointing which drains your Love Account.

 

6 - USE “I FEEL _____” OR “I NEED _____”  ASSERTIVE STATEMENTS. This simple approach will guarantee that you receive more empathy and less rejection. Innovative solutions, too, will be generated.

 

7 - MAKE REGULAR DEPOSITS INTO YOUR LOVE ACCOUNT. Be grateful for the love connection you’ve got by demonstrating small acts of kindness when you hit a rough patch on the two-way communicator highway.

 

8 - BE A "PROBLEM PREVENTER" BY FOCUSING ON THE POSITIVES. The ratio of your remarks ought to be nine positives (9+) to every one (-1) negative to break even.

 

9 - NO SPOILED PARTNER. The energy and work of being a caring couple needs to be about equal or the harder working partner will feel low, ignored and resentful.

 

10 - UNDERSTAND YOUR EMPATHIZER OR INSTIGATOR PARTNER'S MOODS. Relationship distress causes Empathizers to become depressed and self-critical, while relationship unhappiness causes Instigators to become angry and partner-accusatory.

 

Happiness springs forth from following basic rules that make lovers feel respected, emotionally protected, and each one of you empowered in trust.

 

 

 

 

 

Love Rules: Add simple acts of unexpected kindness to the relationship mix to experience the joy of loving and being loved.
 

 

Interested in Marriage Counseling in Dayton, Ohio?

 

Call or Email Dennis O'Grady for a free phone consultation now.

 

 

Learn more about effective communication at www.drogrady.com

 

Copyright © 2017 by Dr. Dennis O’Grady (937-428-0724). Distributed under license by New Insights Communication, LLC.

 

 

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